Twinkle Khanna's latest column in a leading daily is all about the bond that she shares with her mother Dimple Kapadia and daughter Nitara Bhatia. Twinkle mentioned how life with her mother can sometimes be too much to handle.
“I clearly recall more than one occasion when I almost had to sit on my hands so that I would not end up strangling my mother. Like the time, she said my newly done highlights looked like someone had spat paan on my head. She said it as a joke but her criticism, even light-hearted, would sting,” she wrote.
However, after Twinkle became a mother herself, she developed a new respect for her own mother. “I know that like most daughters, my self-worth for the longest time and partially even now, is based firmly on what I perceive as my mother’s notion of me...I try to help my daughter rejoice in her strengths, build confidence, integrity and fearlessness while also throwing a few vegetables down her throat. But I know I will still slip up inadvertently,” she wrote.
Twinkle fears that one day, her own daughter might think of her differently than what she expects. “In the future, she may sit on a therapist’s couch and moan about something that slipped out of my mouth, perhaps just once, but has never been forgotten. Or she may tell her partner, ‘You remember 20 years ago, there was some sort of quarantine? While all the other moms were making delicious pancakes with strawberry drizzle, mine just gave me toast with some peanut butter’,” she wrote.