Priyanka Chopra Jonas often speaks highly of her husband Nick Jonas, calling him her loudest cheerleader and even saying that he always has her back. Now, in a recent podcast interview, the actor opened up about her past relationships before Nick and said how those made her thing of herself as a ‘doormat’.
In a recent interview on a popular podcast, Priyanka was asked if she had any pattern while choosing her romantic partner. The actor branded herself as a ‘monogamist’ and said, “I went from relationship to relationship to relationship. I did not give myself time at all between relationships, till my last one. I always ended up dating the actors that I worked with or the people that I met on my set. I just thought I had an idea of what a relationship should be like, and I kept seeking that and trying to fit the people that came into my life into my idea of that relationship.”
She further said, “The repeating of the mistake was always feeling like, I need to be the caretaker, always feeling like it’s okay to cancel my job or my work or my meeting or my priority to make sure that he’s propped up. It was so normalised in my brain for so long that I ended up giving the power in such a skewed way that I never stood up for myself. I literally would become like a doormat and I was like, okay, that’s fine because, you know, that’s what women have been told for such a long time that our role is to glue the family together or you’ve got to make your man feel comfortable when he comes back home.”
She also talked about the patriarchal society that she comes from where she feels “there’s a normalcy around the man eating first and then women.” However, before getting married to Nick, she gave herself some time after her last relationship and pondered on why she was repeating the same mistakes in her relationships. She realized that what she was doing was “self-destructive” and started feeling ‘invisible’ in her romantic relations. PeeCee said, “I reached a point in my life where I was like, what the f*** are you doing? Like, this is getting self-destructive at this point when I had to choose me, I had to be like I don’t owe no one anything except my family and myself, the people who truly love me. When you are in relationships where you stop recognising who you are, you stop having your own identity, or you stop knowing what is it what you want for yourself, what your goals are, then you are invisible. And, I just started feeling invisible in my relationships.”
Priyanka lavished praise on Nick saying that he “thrives on seeing me shine”. She said, “My husband makes me feel so seen and so heard and in fact, he thrives on seeing me shine, like he is the most excited about the shows I am doing, he is the most excited when I am on a carpet, he will step aside and he will take pictures of me,” Priyanka shared while adding that Nick is everything a woman would want in her partner. My husband and I have this incredible partnership of ‘I got you.’ I can lean on him, you know, that trust exercise, I won’t do that with anyone except Nick. I don’t trust people. He has my back.”
Priyanka and Nick got married in December 2018 after knowing each other for two years. The two are now parents to their one-year-old daughter Malti Marie Chopra Jonas who was born via surrogacy.
(Source: Call Her Daddy podcast)